"All I ever wanted to do was live my own life. And I'm having damn little success at that."
She laughed low."Only because you keep standing back from it. And turning aside from it. And avoiding it." She shook her head. "Trell, Trell. Open your eyes. This horrible mess is your life. There is no sense in waiting for it to get better. Stop putting it off, and live it."

Robin Hobb, The Liveship Traders saga